Tuesday, April 17, 2007
Tips and ideas for making friendship
Who does not want to make friends? No human being can survive without a friend in this world! We all need friends to make our lives enjoyable and worth living. A world without a friend seems dull and colorless. But it is not very easy to make friends and maintain that friendship. You have to be careful in your approach when making friends. Sometimes we end up making lot of friends and at other times, we fail to have one good friend! However, friends like books, should be few and well chosen. If we have too many friends, we might have occasional differences of opinion and arguments, but if we have one or two trusted friends, we have a true companion, who clearly understands us and guides us from all trouble.
Making friends is not always easy. Especially if you are shy to begin with; let's face it, not all of us were born with a natural knack for social grace. People who are chirpy and outgoing, make friends easily. But with that said, there is hope for us yet.
Here's how to become social and make friends:
1)Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. If someone makes a rude remark, just ignore them- they don't know what they're talking about.
2)Be optimistic. Even if you are feeling really down, remember that there's always something out there to smile about. A positive outlook will make people want to be around you more.
3)Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don't get too carried away - you have to be serious about some things, sometimes. Smile as much as you can. Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.
Share interesting/silly ideas.
4)Listen more rather than talking. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation. Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them.
5)If you know nothing about the person you're trying to get to know, say little things like "whats up." If they are hesitant about answering your questions, share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather. As Tom Waits says, "strangers talk about the weather." Try a compliment, that is, if you find something worth complimenting.
6)Be patient. If you are still among strangers, the apprehension of a conversation may cause a delay in comments. Don't worry, that will go away in short order. Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.
7)Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Bootstrap yourself and work and play day to night until you feel good about yourself again. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem.
8)Be loyal. Little things count: If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).
9)Be nice to others. Always give compliments to those, but don't try too hard. If you are shy take a deep breath and risk it. You never know what might happen. Also crack a joke every once in a while. Again if you are shy, but inside crazy, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around, or dance, others will laugh, and find you fun and funny to be with.
10)It's easier to talk to people if you have shared an experience with them. Clearly the friends you have at the moment predominantly talk about interesting things they did in the past.
www.wikihow.com/Socialize,-Be-Funny-and-Make-Friends
Making friends is not always easy. Especially if you are shy to begin with; let's face it, not all of us were born with a natural knack for social grace. People who are chirpy and outgoing, make friends easily. But with that said, there is hope for us yet.
Here's how to become social and make friends:
1)Just be yourself. Don't be afraid to express your opinions. If someone makes a rude remark, just ignore them- they don't know what they're talking about.
2)Be optimistic. Even if you are feeling really down, remember that there's always something out there to smile about. A positive outlook will make people want to be around you more.
3)Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don't get too carried away - you have to be serious about some things, sometimes. Smile as much as you can. Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.
Share interesting/silly ideas.
4)Listen more rather than talking. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation. Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them.
5)If you know nothing about the person you're trying to get to know, say little things like "whats up." If they are hesitant about answering your questions, share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather. As Tom Waits says, "strangers talk about the weather." Try a compliment, that is, if you find something worth complimenting.
6)Be patient. If you are still among strangers, the apprehension of a conversation may cause a delay in comments. Don't worry, that will go away in short order. Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.
7)Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Bootstrap yourself and work and play day to night until you feel good about yourself again. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem.
8)Be loyal. Little things count: If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).
9)Be nice to others. Always give compliments to those, but don't try too hard. If you are shy take a deep breath and risk it. You never know what might happen. Also crack a joke every once in a while. Again if you are shy, but inside crazy, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around, or dance, others will laugh, and find you fun and funny to be with.
10)It's easier to talk to people if you have shared an experience with them. Clearly the friends you have at the moment predominantly talk about interesting things they did in the past.
www.wikihow.com/Socialize,-Be-Funny-and-Make-Friends
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